The
Virtue of Patience
by Dr. Denis Waitley
As long as we are patient in our pursuit of our deepest
destiny, we will continue to grow. We cannot choose the day or time
when we will fully bloom. It happens in its own time.
While persistence is the determination to strive to achieve your
ultimate goal, there is another virtue of equally great value.
Persistence keeps us moving inside ourselves to see the purpose
behind the purpose, but patience is the wisdom behind persistence.
Patience cautions us to focus our efforts on what we can change
while accepting what we cannot. When external circumstance rains on
our parade, patience is our umbrella. Rather than blaming what we
cannot control, patience gives us pause for reflection so we can dry
off and start looking for a new way.
In his book Time and the Art of Living, Robert Grudon says
that patience harnesses the power of time for our own purposes. What
does he mean by "the power of time?" The answer is change. Time
changes everything. No person passes through time unchanged. We grow
older. Our relationships either deepen or break up. We achieve our
goals, or we abandon them, or we hang in there.
You see, it is when a goal is distant and difficult to reach that
patience is our ally. Time changes everything, but with patience we
can keep our desires relatively constant. If we can just hang on
long enough, we know that time will finally create for us the
conditions in which we can succeed.
Imagine you are on a carousel. From the ceiling, the proprietor has
hung a ring. Whoever grabs the ring wins another turn, but there's
one rule for all: You cannot get off your horse to grab the ring.
Suppose the first time your horse passes the ring, as the
merry-go-round keeps circling, your horse bobs and it is physically
impossible to reach the prized object.
If you curse your bad luck and the fact that the conditions were not
right for you, you'll not be doing all you can to prepare for the
next time the ring comes around. Suppose you miss and miss again? Do
you give up and get off? The patient person knows that if he or she
can keep the eyes fixed on the ring, on the goal, in time he or she
will catch that ring.
And what of patience with regard to our purpose behind the purpose?
How does patience relate to the deep desire to find a destiny worthy
of ourselves? It is absolutely indispensable. No one can attain the
fullness of his or her life according to a timetable. No one can
find a destiny worthy of a full life without living that life
conscientiously and passionately in the natural order in which it
comes. When you plant a flower, you need to have the patience to let
it grow, and the same is true of yourself.